If you've just slipped and said, "I love you" too soon, or you're a guy who's given a gift too soon, or a woman who's blurted out, "When are you going to call again? If you've started to smother the relationship, all you can do is step back and let it breathe. If you can, take a trip and send him or her just ONE postcard." by mistake, the relationship can be re-balanced with a little mid-course correction. If you can't leave, just throw yourself into your work for a couple of weeks. Give the relationship some space, allow some time to go by, and -- above all -- act happy.(See the bottom of "When He/She's Left You -- Coping" in the "Letting Go" Section of the Library for the secret of acting happy when you're actually miserable from missing your lover.) And be sure to read "How Much To Give and When." Related Keywords: Giving Too Much, Love Strategies, Over-Romanticizing, Commitment, Love Addiction Return to Library Top Page Return to "Ask Dr.When it comes to intimacy, the million-dollar question is "How far is too far?
By the second week you're writing love notes to each other on a daily basis. When a woman gives me something expensive, it makes me feel as if an alien element has come into the relationship -- the element of dollar value as opposed to love and caring.You're not sure how much to water it, and your instincts tell you to nurture it, so you over-water it and kill it.Here's how over-giving can kill a budding relationship: He or she will take you for granted and expect you to continue to do more and more for him.On the other hand, lust is excessive sexual desire not controlled by concern for another. Lust is an appetite that seeks to satisfy itself at the expense of another and is unconcerned with intellectual, emotional, or spiritual health.
It is never healthy, loving, or giving, even in marriage.
Your friends say you've changed and they never see you any more.