We were friends before you started dating


The reality is that when friends become lovers the shift in their emotions is usually gradual.In fact, it's so subtle they don't even notice it's happening until the moment a kindly hug becomes loaded with intention.I believe in my relationship because of the small things we do for one another every day.



She'd found this affable, gentle man appealing as a shoulder to cry on when her succession of thrilling but chaotic relationships dissolved.I just had this instinct from that very first conversation that this person was going to be important in my life; that he was, well, the one.” — Laura We became a team.“I didn’t have one of those singular moments where a lightbulb went off.“Unlike my previous relationships, I wasn’t haunted by deeper, nagging questions of whether or not I wanted to be with him.

Disagreements didn’t threaten to end in a breakup — it was always just assumed that we would keep going.

“With my fiancé, it wasn’t the crazy roller coaster I was used to. For instance, very early in our relationship, he schlepped an air mattress all the way from the Upper West Side to my downtown apartment when my girlfriends were staying for the weekend.